Divorce.

Not the prettiest topic, not even the most comfortable but it could be a very important one. There’s an old adage that 50% of marriages will end in divorce, now that’s a high percentage even with the fact that that has been the statistic for about the last 50 years or so. Seriously, was that percentage even accurate pre 2000 I doubt it, now when I looked for what the current divorce rate is I ended up stifling through dozens upon dozen of articles that, not just mentioned what the divorce rate was/is but many of them narrowed it down by state. I personally found that intriguing, can the town, City and/or State you live in really determine if and when you will get divorced? Even knowing that, yes our environment does assist in shaping who we are.

But I still do not entirely believe that, I also came across no less than 25 articles on “How to Divorce-Proof Your Marriage”, listing multiple ways to “keep your spouse interested”, and “getting married after a certain age can increase your chance for a successful marriage”, neither of these I would put full stock into. Can you really divorce-proof your marriage? Possibly, but there are no tricks in a book, there’s no top secret, there’s no code, so how do you do it? You become and continuously invest into being your authentic self. There, that’s the secret and when both partners not just one, because remember relationships, married or not work better when both partners are their authentic selves. By being your authentic self, it “contributes to your holistic well-being, encouraging happiness, fulfillment, and high self-esteem“. And when you are your authentic self, the most amazing things happen in and around your life and as a benefit so many of your relationships. And hopefully you clicked on that link to learn more courtesy of Masterclass.com. 😉

Now, as a wedding officiant I love when two people are in love. I love to see love, I love to hear about love, but it should be real authentic full-self, love. Divorce isn’t pretty, it effects more then just the two individuals going through the divorce, it affects kids, extended family and friends, but suffice to say, divorce may be necessary in some circumstances. But when we are truly true to ourselves we can be true to the person we say I-Do to, two willing individuals with a shared understanding that the real work begins after the wedding night and continues for the long-term. Sending you love ❤️